The situation is far from rare and truly painful. What should you do if your boyfriend or girlfriend starts flirting with your partner? Break off friendly relations with the person you are attached to without looking? Close your eyes and just trust your partner? Psychotherapist Joanna Coker answers.
I trust him, he never gave me any reason to doubt him. And yet I can't help but watch him. I involuntarily watch to see if he shows her reciprocal signs of attention. In all other respects she good friend, and I would like to maintain our friendship. But I'm worried that she will cross the line, and then conflict is inevitable.
Joanna Cocker, psychotherapist:
In my practice, I have encountered similar situations many times. It seems that your friend is a predator. Such people are attracted to challenges - for example, stealing someone's partner.
It is possible that your friend’s jealousy and possessive instinct towards you, and not towards your husband, are manifested here. Perhaps your happy marriage confuses her and makes her feel rejected. If so, then it's her problem, not yours. Maybe she also wants to have at least something of what you have. Perhaps she unconsciously wants to destroy your relationship with your husband in order to restore the previous relationship with you.
In any relationship it is important to respect boundaries, and in this case your boundaries were clearly violated
If you are truly important to her, she will be able to accept it. If your friend does not show understanding or denies everything, you will have to think about what to do next. Remember: a true friend cannot hurt you.
In any relationship, it is important to respect boundaries, and in this case, your boundaries were clearly violated. We all want to live for our own pleasure. But this does not mean that we have the right to achieve this at any cost.
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A girl flirts with my husband
Recently I received a whole series of letters [as agreed] with questions about how to deal with jealousy. But this is not just jealousy for no reason or as a result of provocations on the part of a man. Women asked for advice in a difficult situation when, while in the company of their beloved man, they are faced with open flirting from other women.
What to do if representatives of the fair sex show interest in your companion, without being at all embarrassed by YOU? Other women flirt with my man– that’s what we’ll talk about.
If other women show interest in your man, this is a reason to rejoice. It sounds strange, but there is even such a saying: “Why do I need someone who no one needs.” Most likely, you can be proud of him for some of his merits and achievements.
It’s another matter if he behaves like an unscrupulous tempter, seduces women as if he were a hero-lover of Casanova.. In this case, think about whether you need such a man and what a relationship with him will lead to. If necessary, prepare yourself to put up with the circumstances and drink a sedative in the hope that “he will definitely change.”
Let's look at the example of the situation of one of my clients. A woman and her companion come to a restaurant for her friend’s anniversary. For obvious reasons, there are many unmarried ladies there who, in a slight alcoholic oblivion, begin to sweetly “tweet” with a handsome man who suddenly appears in their field of vision.
Do I need to explain that every woman wants love and tenderness? We will not condemn them for such a natural and inherent desire in female nature. But flirting with a man in the company of his own woman is disrespectful and ugly. And it’s easy for me to imagine how such a situation can plunge you into shock and cause bewilderment: “And how should I react to this?!”
I suppose you want to learn about methods by which you can get rid of momentary jealousy and defuse this “bomb in a skirt” (with this expression I do not intend to offend anyone)?
A friend flirts with her husband. What to do?
Cheating is always a shock for every woman. Resentment and anger at the husband who committed such a betrayal, self-flagellation, confusion and uncertainty about the future - all these feelings are fighting in the soul at the same time. And there can be many ways out of such a situation. But what if the betrayal as such has not happened yet? If you just noticed the first signs of flirting, and the situation is complicated by the fact that your friend is flirting with your husband?
First, you need to clearly understand that a woman who allows herself to flirt with your husband can hardly be called a friend. This is a friend, a work colleague, a former classmate - in general, anyone, but not a friend. To dot all the i's, invite your rival for a cup of tea in the nearest cafe and talk to her frankly. Here we are talking only about the situation if you yourself classify this lady as your close, soulful friend. Then, perhaps, such a conversation will really help clarify the situation: either you will understand that your suspicions were unfounded, or your friend will draw the appropriate conclusions and, for her part, will try to preserve your friendship. As already mentioned, this scenario is rather an exception; it is possible only when we are talking about true friendship.
Much more often, you may encounter another situation: your mutual friend or acquaintance is flirting with your husband. If you and your spouse have a trusting relationship, then you can simply talk to him and tell him what is bothering you. Rest assured, in a family where the husband and wife are, among other things, also friends, solving such a problem will not be difficult. If there really is something between your husband and girlfriend, then your man will not lie to you, because he simply sincerely respects you. If your husband does not have the slightest interest in this lady, then together you can decide what to do next.
Well, the third option: you love your husband very much, and he loves you too, but for one reason or another you don’t dare talk about painful things with him. What remains? Watch the development of events. If you are sure that your friend is openly flirting with your man, try to communicate with her exclusively outside of your own family. And it would be even better to gradually eliminate all relations with this person. Do not create scandals or “confrontations” if your rival decides to openly flirt, and even in your presence, such a reaction will only increase her desire to take your husband away from you.
It is easier to prevent any problem than to eliminate its consequences. Try not to get too close to your friends. In the sense that they don’t necessarily need to know all the details of your life together with your husband. Friendship is wonderful, but a certain distance should remain between friends. If you notice that a friend is flirting with your husband, try to make him pay as much attention to you as possible. Then your spouse will have neither the time nor the desire to respond to his friend’s messages. Sometimes it is enough for a man to say: “I noticed that Lenochka is not indifferent to you, and you also show her special signs attention. Well, if you feel better with her, then I won’t keep you!” Men, like children, prefer forbidden fruits. After you yourself recommend that he pay attention to Lenochka, it is quite possible that your husband will lose all desire to respond to her advances, he will simply become bored.
In any case, there are no universal recipes; in a specific situation, each woman acts according to her circumstances. In the end, there is nothing terrible in innocent flirting if it does not involve any continuation. Admit it to yourself, you also allowed yourself to smile once again at one of your husband’s colleagues at the last New Year’s corporate party? By the way, perhaps this is why there have been no more offers from my husband to spend time in the company of his friends over the past year. Maybe your man turned out to be wiser than you: he did not challenge a potential opponent to a duel, he simply made sure that you would not meet with him again, and he, in turn, surrounded you with sincere care and attention.
Girlfriend flirts with my man
Cheating has always been and remains a shock for a woman. Having learned about her husband’s betrayal, a woman’s soul simultaneously struggles with such feelings as anger and resentment towards her husband, uncertainty about the future and confusion, and self-flagellation. There are several ways to get out of this situation. But if betrayal as such has not yet occurred, what should we do then? What to do if the first signs of flirting have just begun to appear? What should I do if I discovered an unpleasant fact - my friend is flirting with my man?
First, understand that a woman flirting with your spouse cannot be called a friend. Such a woman can be a work colleague, a friend, a former classmate, in general, anyone, but not a friend. In order to put everything in its place, you can invite your rival to a cafe and, while you drink coffee, talk frankly with her. But this option should be used if the rival is one of your close, soulful friends. A frank conversation with a friend in this case will help you either dispel your suspicions or confirm. Perhaps, after a frank conversation, your friend will draw conclusions and want to preserve your friendship. However, this option can only be used if there is truly true friendship between you.
But most often there is a different situation: your mutual friend or acquaintance is flirting with your spouse. In this case, you can talk to your spouse himself, but only if you have a trusting relationship and tell him what’s bothering you. Often in a family where, in addition to marital ties, friendships also reign between spouses, such problems are solved quite easily. If your husband really has someone and he has certain feelings for her, then he will not lie to you out of sincere respect for you. But if he has someone and he doesn’t feel anything for her, then you can decide your further actions together.
Well, if you love your husband and don’t dare talk to him about your suspicions, then what can you do? Wait and monitor developments. If you have no doubt that your friend is flirting with your spouse, then limit communication with her at home. But it’s better, of course, to negate any communication with such a friend. If your rival begins to openly flirt with your spouse in front of your eyes, then under no circumstances arrange “confrontations” and/or scandals; such a reaction may increase your rival’s desire to take your spouse away from you.
Remember that it is easier to prevent a problem than to eliminate the consequences it entails. Therefore, try not to get too close to your friends. Your friends don’t have to tell you about your life together with your husband in detail. Friendship is, of course, good, but even between close friends there should be a certain distance.
If your friend openly flirts with your husband, then do everything so that your husband pays attention to you and then he will not have time to pay attention to your friend’s affairs. Sometimes if you say to a man: “I noticed that Irochka watches you all the time, is not indifferent to you, and you, I noticed, reciprocate. Well, if you decide to throw in your lot with her, then I won’t hold you back!” And men, as you know, love forbidden fruits. Therefore, after such a direct “recommendation”, most likely the husband will lose all interest in his rival’s flirting.
But be that as it may, in each specific situation you need to act according to the circumstances, because there are simply no “recipes” that would be suitable for each situation.
There is, of course, nothing wrong with innocent flirting if this flirting does not develop beyond what is permissible. After all, you’ve probably flirted with one of your spouse’s employees at least once in your life, for example, at a New Year’s corporate party. This could be the reason why he no longer takes you to his friends' corporate meetings. If this is so, then your spouse is wise, since he did not call the potential rival for a conversation, but simply surrounded you with his attention and sincere care and made sure that you would not meet with the potential rival again. Why don't you do the same.
She's flirting with my husband. What to do?
Our grandmothers felt uneasy in their hearts if a pretty stranger suddenly smiled at their grandfather. Mothers were wary when a stranger called and said that she had the wrong number. Social networks have fallen to our lot. Who else is his friend? Why is she writing on his page? Why do people like all his posts? How do you understand what this means?
“One girl who works with my husband got into the habit of leaving posts on his Facebook page. He says it’s for work, but he doesn’t send anything to other employees and only tags him in the photos. This worries me, but I'm afraid to say anything to him in case he or she perceives it as stupid jealousy and a sign of self-doubt.
I trust my husband, but this girl makes me nervous. Everyone knows that he has been married for a long time, but she acts as if she doesn’t care about it. How can I understand what's going on?
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Unfortunately, no one has yet really developed a textbook on correct behavior on social networks. The current generation is on their toes trying to figure out the etiquette rules associated with mobile messaging and email. Before this, a regular wired telephone created the same problems. In cave times, Neanderthals became jealous when other Neanderthals shared a sharpened stone with each other.
This is what I'm getting at: I also think this is flirting. But like all other actions on social networks, the reasons for this behavior are shrouded in fog. It doesn't look right, but it doesn't look particularly criminal either. In order to see behind this fog what is really happening, it is best to talk to your husband. There is no need to write anything to that girl; you do not know her. Talk to a loved one.
Don't blame him or his colleague for anything. Don't get excited. Calmly explain how you feel. Say, “Look, I know Facebook doesn't have any written rules about this. But I think it's a little strange: she only writes to you and tags only you in the photo. How do you think why? Is she flirting with you? Do you think she does this without a second thought or is she counting on something?
Who knows what he will answer. Maybe he is also a little embarrassed that she behaves this way. Or maybe he didn't think about it at all. If you don’t jump to conclusions and put pressure on him or accuse him of something, he should understand you.
If you calmly ask a question, and your husband explodes in response, begins to be indignant, screaming how dare you suspect him or her of something - that will really be suspicious. In this case, keep an eye on him.
girlfriend flirts with her husband
We've been family friends for about 6 years. Recently I began to notice that a friend allows herself to flirt with my husband. Maybe he should make a remark to me in his presence. He will not be stingy with praise. During meetings she tries to show that she is better. He tries in every possible way to demonstrate his figure. Etc. I’m starting to have complexes, although all the time I was confident in my attractiveness and in my husband’s fidelity, now I’m starting to doubt it. He’s probably more of the type of man who won’t go to a brothel on his own, but if a girl takes the initiative, she won’t refuse. Maybe I’m already cheating myself, we’ve been living together for 14 years, we have two children. There was never any reason for jealousy. It seems to me that she is simply spitting in my face and our relationship. If I tell her about this, she will make fun of me and assert herself once again. How to end a relationship? Her husband is a good person and is also friends with my husband. What to do? Tired of swallowing.
Criticize her in front of her husband and flirt with him yourself.
Start flirting with her husband (just kidding, bad idea). Tease her, yours doesn’t satisfy you, since you’re flirting with mine?
Just talk to her alone. No jokes and tough. In the forehead - if you don’t cover the fountain, I’ll trample you. And so that it is clear that your attitude is serious and you will not allow grazing in your meadows.
Don’t let this pig into your house anymore and don’t go to them yourself
One girl came up to me one day while visiting. I took a moment to be alone and let’s get tough. It turned out that she was jealous of her roommate, who was sitting next to me at the table. And I was just in this company for the first time and tried to be polite and sociable with those sitting next to me. The guests had to leave, the lady was hysterical, the man was apologizing, and I realized how limitless the imagination of fear is in people who are insecure.
*****@oh such a friend, sorry for the swearing. It’s already clear that she’s not a friend. Stop communicating with her, otherwise quarrels will soon begin in your family. You’ve already convinced yourself that she’s better than you in some ways. Complexes have appeared Tell your friend tete-a-tete that this would be the last time, that she makes some comments in front of your husband.
We were also friends, a friend began to argue with my husband that sparks were flying, but not from anger, but from flirting. I had to make just a little bit of effort to get them away from our house (they were gathering at our place). Now we communicate only separately, me with her, my husband with her husband, and very rarely
Strange women tolerate such proshmande in the house.
Limit your relationship with her to the maximum; if she criticizes you, say that no one asked her for her opinion or the best answer is “darling, don’t be offended, but I don’t consider it necessary to receive advice from someone who is not an authority for me and this is only my husband” be the best for your man and don’t waste your energy on anger and jealousy, behave calmly
With such people you need to use their own methods.
Stop communicating, abruptly ignore.
If your husband asks, then say that she had the impudence and tactlessness to criticize and judge your family, home, children, your husband as incompetent, etc. But only so that the husband does not run to report to her and her husband.
This is how I drove one friend away, she could jokingly climb onto the lap of any of her friends’ husbands, dressed provocatively, quarreled with other people’s husbands in order to attract attention to herself. She was constantly showing off, for example, while wearing a miniskirt or shorts with naked rolls, sat at the table in the lotus position, twitching did not help, she seemed to be used to it and was comfortable with it, and she behaved absolutely normally in female company and dressed decently.
Now no one from our company maintains communication with her. I recently heard from friends that she was hanging around with her husband from her new friend.
Stop communicating or reduce communication to a minimum. She is not your friend if she behaves like this. And don’t let her get close to her husband. And where is her own husband looking?!
These guys with cockroaches also came up to me and started yelling at me to get away from my husband and other *****. And I thought I wonder who her husband is and why this fool is pestering me. It turns out that’s what they are, these strange aunts. If I were my friend, at the first hint I would send the abnormally jealous person away and not communicate anymore
Do you think there are no such women who go after strangers’ men?
She is such a woman. What an insult, she was not allowed to assert herself with her friend’s husband.
Don't let her into the house and stop communicating with this *** altogether.
Oh, how menacing, like the Fuhrer in a skirt.
That's why I don't have any friends. Women are unreliable, you always have to expect some kind of dirty tricks from them. FIG, FIG.
Oh, how menacing, like the Fuhrer in a skirt.
Should you tolerate sluts in your house??
Your “friend” is simply asserting herself at your expense, raising her self-esteem) I had a friend the same, she behaved exactly like this) Besiege her in the presence of your husband, well, you need to build on what she said and be more cunning, in general a bitch) ))) and at the same time smile sweetly))))
Intuition is a built-in calculator.
Just talking to a strange man very often has hidden coquetry, the girl sits there, trains on cats, and sparks fly out.
And the other half, who knows her husband inside out, reads them.
I met a married friend after a 7-year separation, and she suddenly began flirting with my then-friend in front of me.
And she shut up and moved away only when her husband came in.
Was this what she needed?
I immediately lost confidence in her.
I don’t have a girlfriend anymore, why do I need traitors.
And rightly so, don’t interfere with other people’s families and other people’s men. You think that you are the smartest weavers and no one sees anything.
It just seems to me that her need for sex has increased, and her husband is simply tired of her insatiability, maybe that’s why she’s acting like she’s hungry
What makes you think that this is reality and not the author’s imagination? I gave an example of how a girl who had a fear of losing her man came to me with a complaint and a showdown. Her fear painted her a picture of seduction, deliberate flirtation and immorality. Although in fact, I myself was rather a shy shy person and simply tried not to sit like a sullen mouse, but to be polite and keep up the conversation. People tend to accept their fears as truth and believe in them. Even when objectively everything is not so. Having encountered this once, I realize that in the author’s text there is not a single fact that precisely confirms that friend’s intention. But a lot of my own fears. But everyone here who unsubscribes agrees to believe in fear and gives warlike advice
Self-affirms at your expense.
This is not about salad or conversation, read the first episode. For example, yesterday we walked together at a friends wedding, her husband was a witness and sat at a separate table, she was opposite us, so she didn’t take her eyes off him, invited him to a slow dance (he went with me) and during fast dances curled around him, hugging him by the neck. She behaved a little more modestly around me. For example: during fast music, my husband and I were getting excited, he hugged me, suddenly she runs up from behind, as if breaking us up, runs between us and starts dancing, spinning her rear bumper. I may be a *****, although others like me They don’t think so, but I don’t want to stoop to her level and I don’t like flirting with her husband. We were colleagues for 10 years and I respect him.
Do you think that saying thank you to the person who offered you a salad at the table or maintaining a conversation with him on some topic is the same as wanting to get this guy? Are common politeness and sociability no longer considered? Does a husband have the right to talk only to his wife?
One of my closest friends seems to have a crush on my husband. No, she doesn't openly flirt with him. Perhaps she is not even aware that she is paying too much attention to him, she giggles stupidly in response to his every word, and follows him with her eyes all the time. It’s hard for me to blame her for being attracted to him - he’s truly wonderful. But I feel like all this is starting to affect my attitude towards her.
Most likely, I would have taken this easier if I had not been afraid that one day, having drunk too much, she would begin to behave too openly with him. She cheated on all her partners and, most likely, simply does not know how to control her instincts. To top it all off, she is also beautiful and sensual. I'm not sure there is a man who can resist her.
Maybe it’s my lack of confidence that makes me come up with such a development of events (my family history has given me a fear of being abandoned). I talked to my husband: her increased attention to him also did not escape him, but he assures that this interest is one-sided.
“A TRUE FRIEND CANNOT HURT YOU”
Joanna Cocker, psychotherapist:
It can be assumed that she always enjoyed success with men; the number of victories was more important to her, and not the quality of the relationship. Now it turns out that things are not so rosy for her. You haven't said much about her, but her behavior seems to be due to some past trauma. And this is also her area of responsibility, not yours.
It seems that you decided to stand on the sidelines and not interfere until you have “evidence.” But if your friend crosses the line, you will be even more hurt and your relationship will definitely suffer. And who knows whether your husband will involuntarily succumb to temptation. But you seem to be leaving everything to the mercy of fate. Why?
It is always difficult to face your fears. Moreover, you yourself are not sure of the validity of your suspicions. But still you are so alarmed that you decided to write about it. And your husband admits that these are not just your fantasies. You can still do nothing, expecting everything to work itself out (or, conversely, explode) - or you can act.
You need to decide whether to talk to your friend and which of you should do it: you or your husband (or maybe both). It is very important that you and your husband are on the same page. If you decide to have a conversation, it is best to speak as directly as possible: “I don’t like the way you behave with my husband. It upsets me and I wish you would behave differently.” Or, for example: “You and I have been friends for so many years and I love you, but I don’t like what you’re doing now. Let's discuss this."
You met the guy of your dreams and you are finally together. Your wishes have come true and you are in seventh heaven. But here’s the problem: you begin to notice that your lover is looking at others, and don't know what to do if a guy flirts with other girls?
Jealousy, like a terrible creature, tries to break out. And as soon as she breaks out, quarrels, resentments, and so on will begin. Believe me, this will not lead to anything good. Everything can end quickly and not in your favor. How to behave in such moments and not harm your relationship. Let's find out.
1. If a guy starts flirting with other girls , sort out your relationship first. Do you trust your partner 100%? You cannot tell him directly to his face that you suspect him of intentions to cheat on you, because this can seriously hurt his soul. Because if it turns out that flirting is just a game that he started to see your reaction, and you react violently, then he will feel your distrust of him. And this is the first step towards something seriously breaking down in your relationship.
2. What to do if a guy always flirts with other girls? The problem may not lie with your partner, but with you and your complexes. You trust your boyfriend, but you don’t trust all the women who surround him all the time. It always seems to you that they are just waiting for an opportunity to make him leave you and stay with them. But maybe you are setting yourself up so negatively. But in reality, this is just your worst imagination. If you value yourself, then you will never doubt that you are worthy of your loved one and that he needs no one but you. You may be very surprised how many temptations a loving person can resist.
3. Instead of being jealous and offended by his flirting with others. girls in real life or on social media, you better take care of yourself. Buy new sexy clothes, visit a cosmetologist and hairdresser, improve your appearance and well-being. Transfer his attention to yourself, and not to other women.
4. And don’t try to forbid him to communicate with other girls. This may cause resentment on his part. And he will do this even more to spite you. You should not infringe on the rights of another person and give your partner some freedom. The more you try to keep him on a short leash, the more he will move away from you.
5. There is no need to take revenge on him . Especially start flirting with other guys, or with his friends. You'll only make things worse for yourself. After all, in the company of friends, his girlfriend should always look stunning and belong only to him. And if you start behaving frivolously with others, you will greatly hurt his pride, trample him in the dirt in front of his friends, lower his self-esteem and thereby lead your relationship to nowhere.
6. What to do if a guy flirts with other girls on social networks? No need to throw tantrums and create scandals! Men really don’t like hysterics, relationship squabbles and constant snot. Always be cheerful and don’t show that it hurt you too much. It’s better to calmly ask who the girl is with whom he communicates so furiously and why you haven’t met her yet. Maybe this is just a good friend of his from early childhood, with whom he was very friendly, without knowing you. It’s better to figure everything out first, rather than make a scandal.
Valeria Protasova
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Cheating is always difficult news for a woman, which is usually followed by a loud quarrel and divorce. But it’s even more difficult when your best friend, who shamelessly flirts with your husband, becomes the reef against which the family boat hits. A wise woman will never allow a situation to get out of control, but sometimes you may not be able to keep track...
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Signs that a friend is flirting with my husband or boyfriend - how to spot the danger in time?
A friend who allows herself to flirt with your husband is a predator without principles or conscience. Of course, there is absolutely no need to talk about friendship here if your husband is taken away from you before your very eyes, smiling and hiding behind fairy tales about female friendship.
But how to understand that this is really flirting on her part, and, most importantly, how to understand that her husband responds to this flirting?
- She visits you more often than you would like.
- She doesn't take her eyes off your husband, practically “looking into his mouth” and trying to catch his response.
- She makes jokes, rejoicing at his laughter.
- She casually touches him, “accidentally” stumbling or slipping, “clumsily” brings a plate, removes non-existent specks of dust from his jacket, enthusiastically touches his biceps, and so on.
- She chooses topics of conversation that will be interesting for your husband to participate in.
- She compliments your husband.
- When her husband enters the room, she noticeably perks up, smiles wider and even tries to sit in a more favorable angle.
- At dinner or while watching TV, she tries to sit as close to your husband as possible.
- When relaxing in a large company, she easily allows her friends to leave, and she herself is in no hurry to go home. At the same time, she is looking for any opportunity to be alone with your husband - she volunteers to wash the dishes while he makes coffee, takes him tea because “you’re tired.”
- She will definitely ask your husband how he is doing. And this question will not be an ordinary phrase - she will pay a lot of attention to detail, and will listen with enthusiasm about how his day went, what a bastard his boss is, and how tired he is of looking for a parking place for his iron horse.
- She constantly tries to enter your husband’s personal space, leaning closer to him when he talks about something, taking “seats in the front row,” “friendly” grabbing his arm, etc.
How to react and how to behave with your friend and beloved man if you notice your friend flirting with him?
In every relationship there is a boundary that absolutely cannot be crossed. And, if you feel that your friend is brazenly overstepping these boundaries - or is about to overstep - then it is better to take action in advance.
What to do?
Of course, you can honestly and openly talk about your fears to your friend and your spouse.
But the problem is that if flirting has long been mutual, and there is already something more behind it, then you will look pretty stupid in this situation.
And you will look exactly the same if there is nothing at all between them - and you imagined flirting because of your wild jealousy. Therefore, you should not tell your friend about your fears.
Dragging is also not an option. By making a scandal with your friend, you will only demonstrate your defenselessness.
How then?
- Don't wait for flirting to develop into cheating - solve the problem right away . The “evidence” you are waiting for may not appear (especially since if your spouse succumbs to this temptation, it will definitely not be in your presence).
- It is stupid to simply hope that your husband is a faithful and devoted person. If your “friend” has set a goal to ruin your relationship, she won’t have to force your spouse into bed, just an easy staging that you will immediately believe. In addition, a rejected woman is a real vixen.
- Drive your friend out—if not from your life in general, then at least from your home. Of course, softly and unobtrusively - “we’re having renovations,” “we’re going to grandma’s,” “we’re going shopping,” and so on. Gradually, your friend will understand that you do not want to invite her into the house, and she will start a conversation about it. Or it won’t start, but will simply proudly “go off into the sunset,” which is also to your advantage.
- Don't be afraid to offend your "friend". She's definitely not afraid to offend you by flirting with your spouse.
- Do not stoop to hysterics and showdowns with your husband – ideal wives are not exchanged even for mistresses. What can we say about the wife’s flirting friends!
You can’t forget to love – where would it be correct to put a comma in a relationship with a friend and a man?
Human relationships can sometimes be very complex and confusing. There are cases when, after a husband’s betrayal, a divorce occurs with a best friend - but the friendship with the friend continues, because it is with her, oddly enough, that “fire, water and copper pipes” have been passed through.
But this is rather an exception.
Of course, a person who calls himself a friend will never intentionally harm you, so even the “easy and safe” flirting of a friend with your husband is not a normal situation that requires a solution.
Where exactly should I put an end to a relationship - and with whom, or should I put a comma? It's up to you to decide. The main thing is to understand what is more important to you at the moment.
It is also important to understand that, in fact, the “legs of the problem” may not grow from where you thought...
- Perhaps your friend doesn't consider you a friend , and in life she does not stop at the goals that she sets for herself, regardless of whether this goal will be your spouse or material things. Perhaps you thought too much of her and wishful thinking.
- Perhaps this situation is trying to show you your own behavior. Analyze whether you are flirting with your spouse’s friends. Perhaps your husband decided to show you - you, from the outside.
- Perhaps there is no flirting : your friend is just a cheerful and open person, and you are too jealous and inventing unnecessary problems for yourself.
- Perhaps your friend is just a flirt in life. And it doesn’t even occur to her how their wives react to her style of communication with other people’s husbands.
- Perhaps your friend is jealous and envying you who is not going to take your husband away from you, but your happiness clouds your eyes so much that an envious nature makes her “bite” you out of harm.
Do you know your friend well? Remember, maybe she behaves this way not only with your husband? Maybe we need to forgive and understand this chronic flirt who lacks male attention.
Or maybe her personal life is so bad that she is even ready to take such a desperate step as taking her husband away from her friend.
In any case, the best thing you can do is to limit her stay in your home and her contact with your husband.
How not to make a mistake if a friend flirts with my man - avoid prohibited techniques and learn to respect yourself!
There are no recipes for happiness family life for everyone at once. Each situation is individual and requires special solutions.
But in this situation you need to remember the main thing:
- No tantrums : you are a wise woman, and you do not stoop to hysterics and scandals. Even if your friend has driven your spouse to the brink of madness with her flirting. We smile and wave to both of them - let them be happy away from you.
- No need for extra words. In such a situation, many psychologists recommend talking “softly and tenderly, from afar,” first with your husband, then with your unscrupulous friend, so that they understand that they are doing wrong and stop this disgrace. In fact, if they have already decided to reach this very disgrace, then talking will not help the matter. If the flirting is mutual and happens before your eyes, it means that they have even lost respect for you. That is, the time for conversations is irretrievably lost - the time has come for drastic decisions. Respect yourself - do not stoop to such conversations that degrade your dignity.
- If you love your husband and your girlfriend, then you trust them. If there is no trust, it means that your feelings are not sincere, you have a “big nose”, or you are pathologically jealous. But even with complete trust in your loved ones, you need to remember the main thing: no lonely friends in your house.
No matter how open and simple-minded you are...
- Never brag to your friends about what a wonderful husband you have.
- Don't post your happy faces in photos on social networks.
- Under any pretext, avoid visits from single friends (this also applies to single friends of your husband) to your home.
And don’t forget the age-old wisdom: you need to be happy quietly.
May have seemingly opposite meanings.
Monitor your emotions to decide which value is right for you.
Soaring can be a symbol of: liberation and getting rid of problems and restrictions.
To soar emotionally above the situation: may mean a way out of a traumatic experience.
Sometimes people remember that after being injured, they seem to soar upward.
Soaring may also indicate that you are in harmony with your feelings and emotions.
You feel spiritual harmony within yourself and float towards your feelings and at the same time with them.
Floating in the water: means you have allowed your emotions to surface.
To float in the air: means to rise above it all.
Floating: Also means that you float aimlessly above the ground.
Ground yourself.
Outline potential goals and take steps.
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Dream Interpretation - Flirt
Innocent entertainment awaits you, which will bring you a lot of pleasure.
Imagine that you joyfully accept advances, boldly flirt and even allow yourself to be kissed.
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